She’s Just Not Giving A $h!t… 5 Things I Don’t Care About As A First-Time Mom.
I’ve seen this trend going around - “things I don’t care about as a mom of two” or “things I don’t care about as a new wife” you name it . And honestly? I'm loving it. I love that people are talking about not having it all together and not really caring to. So, I figured I would chime in…
Here are 5 things I don’t care about as a first time mom:
Germs
If my baby’s paci hits the floor, I'm not sprinting to boil it in purified spring water. I’m dusting it off, maybe giving it a little mom-lick for good luck and we’re moving on with our day. I don’t have time for all that sterilizing. Of course, I have my reservations on certain places and areas where I like to be a little more sanitary, but I don’t fit the stereotypical “first time mom worrier” when it comes to germs. His bottles, teething toys and paci’s get sterilized once every night, and that’s plenty.
2. Where My Kids Clothes Come From
Thrift store, Zara, or freaking Ralph Lauren - I don’t care. If it’s cute, it's coming home with us. Some days he’s in a $4 onesie from Old Navy, and other days he’s in a $30 onesie from some fancy online boutique. And the best part is, you wouldn’t know the difference because it’s all going to be covered in yogurt and raspberries anyways.
3. When He Crawls or Walks
I don’t care if he’s not walking by his first birthday, to be honest. He will do it when he’s damn good and ready, and right now I'm actually loving his lazy little army crawl. Do I sit with him and practice his crawling and walking? Yes, of course. But I’m not rushing it because let’s be real, once he’s mobile my workout routine gets doubled from chasing him around 24/7. All babies are different, end of discussion.
4. Having the Perfect Schedule/Routine
Sure, he does best when we’re home all day and his naps are timed out perfectly, but if he falls asleep in the car an hour before he’s supposed to nap… great! I’m grabbing me a little drive thru drink and taking a little drive to look at pretty houses until he wakes up. If bedtime gets pushed back by 2 hours because we’re out enjoying our evening, cool - not worried about it. He came into OUR lives and I'm not running a baby boot camp.
5. Everything Being Organic or Instagram Approved
Of course, I like to scan the ingredients real quick when I’m grocery shopping and of course, will always try to find a healthier option (less dyes, less processed, etc.) but if its not available and he likes it, he can have it. I don’t really care if someone gives him a bite of their banana pudding or a piece of french fry , as long as he’s not allergic or choking… all good. It’s just exposure therapy at this point.
Looking back on the severe postpartum anxiety I had when he was a newborn, it is honestly so freeing to not care about the things that really don’t matter. I have zero interest in impressing the “mom police” that voice their unnecessary thoughts out loud. In fact, I miiight find it a little amusing to see them squirm when my baby drops his paci and I pick it up, dust it off on my jeans, and give it back to him. We are just doing what works for us - germs, thrift finds and all.
XX Shelbi
